tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-77198763536312045562024-02-07T10:40:04.300-08:00Maruko's RoomYien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-71308333388234828422019-05-27T02:08:00.000-07:002019-05-27T02:08:04.107-07:00双赢思维今天的父母和老师需要教导孩子拥有双赢的思维。只有双赢思维的人,才能走得更远。双赢思维涵括一个更深意义,就是为人着想。在你赚钱的时候,也留点给别人,你会赚得更多,你同意吗?你只顾自己得利,让别人吃亏,就算暂时得利,终究落寞。因为你输了人缘和名声。输了上天给你施予的天赋。<br />
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从圣经故事中,我们读到古时候上帝对犹太人在收割麦穗的命令是,不可回头捡起掉在地上的麦穗,因为那是上帝要富人留给穷人和孤儿寡妇去拾取的。这一点,我们华人传统思维很难认同吧?华人会认为那是浪费吧?多数华人是很缺乏双赢思维的.我可以赚一百,为什么要分你三十?买东西最好把价格减到最低,低到对方亏损,你也不管。凡是赚尽,凡是用尽,不留点好处给别人,给工人的工资越廉价越好,把粘人便宜看作是自己有本事。这种人最后一定搞得走投无路,因为工人不爽你,工作没效率,企业也会垮掉。更重要是上天不喜欢这样的人,逆天而行,就是自寻死路。都说了,那是上帝吩咐富人的责任。<br />
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圣经故事中的富人波阿斯还吩咐仆人们收割时,故意多掉些麦穗在地上让寡妇拾取。这个富人最后得到一段幸福的婚姻且老来得子,娶了一个年轻勤劳,就是那常在他田里拾取麦穗的寡妇路得为妻。<br />
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这里的重点不是抱得美人归。试想富人如果不愿为社区中的穷人留口饭吃,穷人逼急了会做什么?打枪、贩毒、卖淫、绑票、犯罪率提升,最后输的也是富人,因为不是被抢就是被杀。<br />
我最近在训练我两岁的儿子,双赢思维。怎么训练?跟他谈条件,帮助他思考如何达到双赢。<br />
双赢思维,如果用在夫妻关系呢?有没有想过你的夫妻关系、亲子关系、同事关系出现紧张氛围,是因为你缺乏双赢思维?你只要自己赢,最后你成了真正的输家!<br />
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-21639318116440729182019-04-18T01:36:00.000-07:002019-04-19T20:38:48.876-07:00成为优秀的女人<br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">看许志安和黄心颖平时如此多的亲密合照、牵手深情的合唱演出,出轨之事怎么可能不发生?如果连大卫王这么一个优秀的君王、被称为合神心意的仆人,都在性试探中跌倒。你认为有哪个男人是真的可以对性试探有免疫的呢?所有的免疫,都是要在事前做好与异性朋友的亲密界限。不是不可以有异性的好朋友,但是一定是要设定界限的。什么界限?很多女人任由自己的丈夫可以去牵异性朋友的手,男女单独的去吃饭、共车。这不是大方,而是无知,懂得在爱情面前表达妒忌和宣誓主权,就是设立界限。与异性朋友保持尊敬的距离,是对伴侣和家人一种爱的表现。</span><span style="font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">女人,你要成为你丈夫心目中最优秀的女人。也许你很勤快、包办家务和孩子,但你只不过是成为老公心目中感激的帮佣或保姆,却还不是他心中最优秀的女人。要成为他心目中最优秀的女人,你必须成为他的精神伴侣。也就是他最想谈心的人,从你身上的安静温柔、智慧的言语,他在面对困难压力时,得到你温柔的安慰和支持,这是你让别的女人无法取代你位置的原因。</span><span style="font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">还有,自古英雄爱美人,不是英雄也爱美人。你需要学习有品味的打扮,让他喜欢带你出门,因为别人称赞老婆漂亮是他的光荣,他会觉得自己很有眼光。</span><br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">有人贬义说,老公在哪,老婆跟到哪,这种老婆叫“跟得夫人”。我觉得聪明的老婆,一定要尽量做“跟得夫人”。因为坚持伴随丈夫,无论在任何的活动场所和服事,有你的参与和讨论,你才有机会发挥精神伴侣和贤内助的角色。女人,不要把成为丈夫的帮助者,这样神圣的角色让给其他女人。因为这个角色是上帝托付你的,也唯独你才是他最得力的助手,最合神心意,最荣神益人的配搭。</span><span style="font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">我们活在一个罪恶的世代,你不需要担心小三的出现,因为到处都有,多不胜数。你需要做的不是去打小三。你需要的是提升自己的心理素质,不停地学习和成长,成为比昨天的你更优秀的女人。</span><br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">你不必是世界上最美的女人,因为年华总会老去,美貌是暂时的,但优秀的女人的魅力是强大的。如果你的老公很优秀,自然有很多女人对他虎视眈眈,你必须提升自己人文素质,你不优秀就跟不上他了,他连跟你讨论都觉得浪费他的时间,觉得你听不懂,或话不投机半句多。如果不幸地你嫁给一个渣男,他到处花天酒地,你根本不必担心小三,因为小三不会要他,至多是骗他的钱而已。嫁给这种渣男,你更加必须优秀起来,他要离开你,就开香槟庆祝吧!因为你这样优秀的女人,也许在水一方早就有一个很优秀的男人默默等待着你呢!</span><br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "dengxian"; font-size: 20.0pt; line-height: 107%;">问题是什么是优秀的女人?你懂吗?人品、心灵、思维都得优秀,缺一不可。如果你还是不懂,就看看身边有没有值得让你欣赏和学习的女人,多靠近她,或许她可以成为你生命中的贵人。最怕是女人往往把比她优秀的另一个女人当作敌人,做无聊的比较加妒忌,然后问老公觉得谁比较漂亮。你老公嘴里不敢得罪你,心里却默默欣赏这个有才气、智慧过人、人品优秀的女人。女人其实可以联手,不必是竞争对手。联手不是为了对付男人,而是抗衡邪恶势力的侵蚀,互相守望、支持和鼓励,保护家园,打造一个健康的社区。特别是一起走天路的家人们,更要成为其他姐妹们的守望者。</span></div>
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<br />Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-2406391628619869232017-11-13T09:32:00.000-08:002017-11-14T23:10:19.716-08:00听话的孩子很危险<div style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">
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常常听见家长要求孩子要乖乖听话。殊不知,这样的教导很危险。听话的孩子人人喜欢,本来不该是件坏事。问题是,所有父母的话都可听吗?不敬虔的父母的话可以听吗?懒惰欺诈愚昧无知贪财好色父母的话可以听吗?通常这类的父母特别期待孩子“听话”,不要将他们的丑事宣扬出去。</div>
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韩国沉船事件,死了很多听话的孩子。我希望家长瞪大眼睛看,思考,问题在哪里?不要再要求孩子乖乖听话,因为那很危险。要教孩子有分辨是非对错的能力,不是盲目跟从。在必要的时候,不要那么听话,不然死得很惨。</div>
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如果在一个企业里,某个主管要求属下要乖乖听话,那家企业肯定很危险。一家企业要有发展,员工是有建设性思维。只有自私的主管才会要求属下要乖乖听话,因为通常都是要跟他一起配合亏公款。</div>
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一个霸道的国家独裁者,希望臣子乖乖听话,他的政治龙椅才坐得稳。所以,阿猪阿狗阿猫,也不必有专业文凭,统统升上去当部长,管理国家大事。而真正有学问知识才干的,统统发放边疆,或坐牢,或处死。罪名是,这些人不听话。</div>
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一个十一岁的小女孩,因为乖乖听话,结果被医生性侵。为什么医生这么容易得逞?因为家长跟孩子说,你要乖乖听医生的话。</div>
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一个从小被养母毒打的女孩,虽然现在个子已经高大过养母,被打的时候也不懂还手,也不会逃跑,只是乖乖站着承受。<span style="font-size: 16px;">因为从小被灌输乖乖听话。</span></div>
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一个被狼父性侵的女孩,妈妈不准她说出去,结果她这样乖乖听话很多年。继续被性侵,终于精神失常。</div>
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一个听话的女孩,从小被养父母利用运毒、偷窃。如果她不偷窃就是不听话。</div>
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心疼这些听话的孩子,他们都很乖。<span style="font-size: 16px;">但是,现今的时代邪恶。无论是医生、老师、警察、国家领袖、甚至教会领袖或父母的话,都不一定可听。</span></div>
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这些年,经过这么多个案。我发现越是要求孩子要乖乖听话的家长,越有问题。一个自私的父母,会要求孩子一定要乖乖听话。因为 ,那是他们的面子。“你要听我的话”,意思是,你要受我掌控,我要你<span style="font-size: 16px;">站就站,坐就坐,服服帖帖。这种父母是</span><span style="font-size: 16px;">利用孩子,操控他们,要凸显自己的权威,满足自己当独裁者的变态欲望。他们通常不会正确教导孩子有辨别力、正确的思维和主见,只是霸道地,一再要求孩子听话,事实上是在欺负小孩,这叫大欺负小,也叫变态。</span></div>
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孩子,必要的时候,不要那么听话。要反抗。 有些人的话不可听。不然你会死得很惨。<br />
家长,不要再教孩子乖乖听话,你这是在叫他任人摆布,没有自己的主见,不会思考。要教他学会自我判断,择善弃恶。</div>
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我爸是个听话的孩子,对他爸妈的话言听计从,受他妈妈掌控。也就因为这样,我妈永远受尽委屈,他们的婚姻不快乐。</div>
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我先生从小就会反驳他父母,因为他很有自己的想法。当初如果他听父母的话,绝对不会踏上服事上帝这条路。他选择顺服上帝,全职服事,却让他父亲非常生气,觉得他不听话。</div>
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当妈妈知道我信了上帝,她非常生气,骂我是个不听话的孩子。不听话就是个坏孩子吗?我不听话的那个决定,却是让我成为了一个更好的人。我从读圣经那一刻开始,发现了自己许多的罪,我渐逐渐悔改。</div>
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而我,<span style="font-size: 16px;">希望我的孩子,将来有一天会对我说,妈咪,我发现谁谁谁讲的(或做的)都不对,因为圣经说…</span></div>
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我希望他好好读圣经,明白神的话,有辨别对和错的能力,顺服天父的旨意,不是顺我的心意。我也会鼓励他,在读神的话语时,若发现父母有什么行为处事不符合圣经时,也一定要指出来,好让我们可以悔改,我们也会用神的话为标准来引导他,我们要一起成长和成圣。因为我不认为我自己身为母亲的就一定比我孩子更优秀,更懂得顺服天父。我怎么知道,也许这单纯的孩子,更贴近天父的心肠呢?</div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-43541227389096546122017-02-13T06:57:00.001-08:002017-02-13T06:57:42.245-08:00遇见神的恩典<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">很多人说生女儿很棒,可以帮她打扮。而我期盼的是教育女儿学习简朴的生活。我要告诉她,作为女孩子最漂亮的地方不是外在的打扮,而是那颗安静、敬畏上帝的心。因为相由心生,心美,人就会美。整齐得体的装扮不可缺,要是懂得生活简单、朴实,更自在。毕竟花很多时间、精力在外在的打扮上会让人迷失。她一生的时间要花在认识神的话语和事奉神的事上。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">我有太多的事情要去教她。除了做人的道理,我还要教她唱歌跳舞。因为我喜欢跳舞,自己编了舞蹈,没有观众,唯一的观众是上帝。我要告诉她不要留恋灿烂的舞台,不要期盼得人的掌声,人生的舞台,最重要的观众是上帝。我常常在屋子里播放诗歌,用舞蹈赞美神。脑海中一想到将来可以和女儿遇恩一起跳舞的画面,就让我好期待。而如今,这一切也只能是想象……</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Ku tak membawa apapun juga<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Saat ku datang ke dunia<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Ku tinggal semua pada akhirnya<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Saat ku kembali ke syurga<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Inilah yang kupunya<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Hati s'bagai hamba<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Yang mau taat dan setia<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">PadaMu Bapa<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Kemana pun ku bawa<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Hati yang menyembah<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Dalam roh dan kebenaran<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Sampai selamanya<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></u></b><b><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">他使人在夜间歌唱</span></u></b></span><b><u><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">办完遇恩的丧事当天夜里,在房里听见这首诗歌【</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Hati Sebagai Hamba</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">】,居然跳起舞来,我是怎么做得到的?在伤心之际,我的身体却可以起来赞美神。这首歌,唤醒了我的心,一颗永远要尊主为大的心。这诗歌提醒我要谦卑,我并没有带什么到这世上来,离世时也不能带走任何东西,遇恩不是属于我的,她是属于上帝的。而我所唯一仅有的,是那颗愿意顺服天父,忠心、谦卑的心。无论神带我走到哪里,心都要赞美神,直到永远。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">在孩子刚去世的那一刻,我和俊聪立即得到了上帝的安慰。我是先经历上帝的安慰,接下来才学习顺服。上帝的安慰是让我们经历在他里面的平安。可是,接下来要面对的,是悲痛的情绪。别人大概会以为,既然都经历了神的安慰,应该不会有太大的痛苦才对。我和俊聪之所以有平安是因为我们认识上帝,知道他的真理和应许。可是要面对的悲痛情绪是人性。面对遇恩的离开,我几乎每日每夜都在哭泣,夜里无法睡去。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">第</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">13</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">天,试探开始了,开始无思乱想、烦躁、埋怨神、怀疑神。难道越是信靠神的人,越要面对考验?这让我觉得神很恐怖。仿佛自己被一直以来所信靠的上帝出卖了。当孩子出事时,神啊,你在哪里?是的,我所信靠的上帝真的存在!当我确定神是真实存在的,更打从怀疑转向对神的生气。生气上帝为何要如此地残忍。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">人在悲痛中会有恐惧。当我落入极度悲伤时,会莫名地感到害怕。觉得无助、无力。到底害怕的是什么?我也不清楚。也许害怕自己不会好起来,永远无法从悲痛中站起来。其实自己也并不想站起来,就让我这样下去吧!夜里总是睡不着,睡着了就不想醒过来。悲痛的感觉就是这样。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">我怀疑自己是不是因为没有办法胜任做母亲的角色,所以上帝要把遇恩带走。我连抱婴孩的方式都不熟巧,笨手笨脚的,很多照顾婴孩的技巧都不会,应该不会是个好母亲。而且自己是一个大忙人,无论是在学校的工作或是教会里的责任,总是非常忙碌,婴孩交在我手上,肯定会被忽略吧!是我不够资格,不够爱孩子吧?所以上帝要把这孩子带走。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">第</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">14</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">天,撑不住了,我很想念女儿遇恩,我求上帝带我走。觉得活着没有意义了,不想活了。活下去要经历的痛苦、思念,让我感到很灰心。事实上,这是对上帝的一种埋怨。不想活了,是在对上帝发脾气。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">第</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">15</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">天,我哭着哭着。看见一个画面,仿佛遇恩在天父那里对我说:“妈妈别哭了,要坚强,我在这里很好……”</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">心情低落、食欲不振、失眠、无助感、有轻生的念头,这些是产后忧郁症状?我统统都有。有教会长辈劝我去见心理治疗师,吃些安眠药什么的。从事心理辅导工作的我,很清楚知道靠药物的人永远不会好起来</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">,</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">因为药物只是一种麻醉和逃避。要面对内心的伤痛,是需要拿出勇气,同时需要面对心里的黑暗。这些情绪挣扎都是一种考验,也是撒旦试探的时刻。只有真理可以叫我得自由,唯有上帝是我的医治者,神的话是我的良药。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">在这样无力的时刻,贴在墙角上作为装饰的经文发挥了作用:</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #f6b26b;"><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">“你不要害怕!因为我救赎了你。我曾题你的名召你,你是属我的。你从水经过,我必与你同在;你淌过江河,水必不漫过你……”(以赛亚书</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">43</span></i></b><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">:</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">1-2</span></i></b><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">)</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #f6b26b;"><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">“耶和华啊,求你医治我,我便痊愈,拯救我,我便得救;因你是我所赞美的。”(耶利米书</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">17</span></i></b><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">:</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">14</span></i></b><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">)</span></i></b></span><b><i><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></b></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">这些一直在墙角上的经文是什么时候贴上去的?我已不记得。当我无力翻阅圣经的时刻,神的话语凑巧地、静悄悄地,透过这些墙角上的经文对我说话。大概在很久以前,自己贴上去的时候都不晓得有一天会从中得到如此大的安慰。可是,上帝一定已经知道,而且是他静悄悄地预备好了这些经文,一直等待在房里的墙角上。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">上帝允许我在人性软弱的情绪中经历悲痛、埋怨、挣扎、怀疑和恐惧。允许我在这样复杂的情绪中学习顺服。更让我看见自己最大的敌人是骄傲。我骄傲地认为上帝凭什么拿走了我的女儿。那是属于我的。除非我愿意谦卑自己,跪下承认我所拥有的都不是我的,都是属于创造天地万物的上帝的,才能顺服上帝这样的安排。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">倘若无数个不眠之夜,是为了让我能更安静地思考上帝的作为,更贴近他。失眠也是一种祝福。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">"<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKPeoPiK9XE" target="_blank">Blessings</a>"</span></b><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
We pray for blessings, we pray for peace<br />
Comfort for family, protection while we sleep<br />
We pray for healing, for prosperity<br />
We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering<br />
And all the while, You hear each spoken need<br />
Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things<br />
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'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops<br />
What if Your healing comes through tears<br />
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near<br />
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise<br />
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We pray for wisdom, Your voice to hear<br />
We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near<br />
We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love<br />
As if every promise from Your word is not enough<br />
And all the while, You hear each desperate plea<br />
And long that we'd have faith to believe<br />
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'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops<br />
What if Your healing comes through tears<br />
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near<br />
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise<br />
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When friends betray us<br />
When darkness seems to win<br />
We know that pain reminds this heart<br />
That this is not,<br />
This is not our home<br />
It's not our home<br />
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'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops<br />
What if Your healing comes through tears<br />
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near<br />
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What if my greatest disappointments or the aching of this life<br />
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can't satisfy<br />
What if trials of this life<br />
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights<br />
Are your mercies in disguise<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">我向上帝要一个梦,让我可以在梦中见到遇恩,看看她在天国如何。自从第</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">15</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">天出现的画面后,我再没有看见她,也没有梦见过。却从</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">C. S. Lewis</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">的这本书里【</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">A Grief Observed</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">】读到这段话:</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">“</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">How wicked it would be, if we could
to call the dead back! She said not to me but to the chaplain,’ I am at peace
with God.” She smiled, but not at me. Then unto the eternal fountain she
turned. (C. S. Lewis, 1961)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">当初如果没有上帝的介入,我和俊聪不可能会在一起。当时</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">我作了一个祷告:“上帝,如果你觉得我该给俊聪一个机会,就让我们明天看见彩虹。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">如今我终于明白为什么上帝在我和俊聪身上显了“彩虹”这么一个格外的奇迹和恩典。是为了日后要发生的事,要用来作为提醒和坚固。遇恩去世后,我会怀疑到底神真的存在吗?他真的掌权吗?他为什么允许我们的女儿就这样离开我们?“彩虹”</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">的奇迹却在这样的时刻,提醒我:“哪一样比较容易?是让遇恩活过来?还是让彩虹出现?”。连“彩虹”这么不可能的祷告,上帝都可以让它发生,我还怀疑神吗?在我生命里,曾经经历许多神奇迹般的保护。比如因为工作的关系,我一个人在鬼屋住了三年,都平安无事。在在证明了信靠上帝的人,有上帝的同在,无论在何处,都无需害怕。可是,我却在遇恩去世的这事上,还是萌生怀疑神的念头。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">其实,上帝早就预备了我和俊聪关于女儿会离去的事。早在遇恩出生的一个星期前,教会的弟兄姐妹为我们祷告,少年人们唱了一首歌【</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQDvTqV5Dq0" target="_blank">It is Well with My Soul</a></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "simsun"; font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">】。熟悉这首诗歌的人都会听过写歌人背后的故事。这父亲在得知所有孩子在一场船难中不幸罹难时,写下了这首诗歌。</span><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">When sorrows like sea billows roll;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">It is well, it is well with my soul.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">It is well with my soul,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">It is well, it is well with my soul.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Let this blest assurance control,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">And hath shed His own blood for my soul.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">My sin—oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!—<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">If Jordan above me shall roll,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">The sky, not the grave, is our goal;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">And Lord, haste the day when the faith shall be sight,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: SimSun;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><b><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>C.S. Lewis却不同意。因为基督的教诲从未鼓励我为了自身的安全考量而不去做某件该做的事。自我保护式的爱,让人变得麻木,变得刚硬如铁。去爱,本来就是一件冒风险的事。爱任何事物,都难保不会有心碎的可能。想要能更靠近主,方法不是回避一切爱所可能加注我们身上的苦难,而是甘心去领受它们,并视此为对主的献祭。</b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: SimSun;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><b><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>上帝奇妙地让我读到一本书----[四种爱]。透过C.S. Lewis的文字安慰我,我的难过不是自找的,是上帝要我经历的。更要我学会不要因为害怕爱会带来的苦难而自我保护、逃避爱。要勇敢爱!C.S. Lewis可以写出那样的领悟,是因为他经历过丧妻之痛,而他真实地面对他的伤痛。</b></span></span></div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-70495980222758674812015-02-20T08:18:00.002-08:002015-02-20T08:23:10.742-08:00当你老了<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;">爱慕你的美丽</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;">假意或真心</span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;">只有一个人还爱你虔诚的灵魂</span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 30.6666641235352px;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 20pt;">年轻的岁月总让人迷恋,当你老了看回年轻时的相片,一定觉得那时的你多俊美啊!因为年轻,拥有许多的爱慕者:因为年轻,常常看不清楚一些事。人老了后,眼睛可能看不太清楚,但是心可能就明了。想一想,当你老了,是谁会留守在身旁?是上帝赐给你的伴侣,一生的牵手,与你一起承受生命之恩的人。神说,你不可以欺诈待她,因为她是神神所造,与你一同承受生命之恩的人。</span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 20pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 20pt;">过去、现在或将来,因着年轻、因着美丽,因着才干,遇见无数的爱慕者。他们爱我什么呢?多少个是真心的?真的爱我的人是那爱我灵魂,为我祷告的人。这样的人不多,但我知道是有的。我很确定,有个人会这样爱我,到老,就是俊聪,我的先生。想起将来有一天,一切美貌青春不再时,依然还会被他这样深深地爱着,就已经是一件很幸福的事情!</span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 20pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-43783506389307704412014-10-14T05:19:00.000-07:002014-10-14T05:19:02.983-07:00哭,是一种幸福<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 36.0pt;">
<b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">一个失去孩子的母亲,所流下的眼泪是为悲伤?还是为思念?我想多年以后,我想起女儿</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">-----</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">遇恩,</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">还是会掉眼泪。你或许很难想像那竟会是为感动和幸福的感觉。</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<b><span style="color: #ffd966;"><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">凡事都有定期,天下萬務都有定時。</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">生有時,死有時;栽種有時,拔出所栽種的也有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">殺戮有時,醫治有時;拆毀有時,建造有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">哭有時,笑有時;哀慟有時,跳舞有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">拋擲石頭有時,堆聚石頭有時;懷抱有時,不懷抱有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">尋找有時,失落有時;保守有時,捨棄有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">撕裂有時,縫補有時;靜默有時,言語有時;</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">喜愛有時,恨惡有時;爭戰有時,和好有時。</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這樣看來,做事的人在他的勞碌上有什麼益處呢?</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我見神叫世人勞苦,使他們在其中受經練。</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">神造萬物,各按其時成為美好,又將永生(原文作永遠)安置在世人心裡。然而神從始至終的作為,人不能參透。</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></i><i><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">(</span></i><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">传道书</span></i></span></b><i><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><b><span style="color: #ffd966;">3:1-11)</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-48753460932401109632014-09-06T11:33:00.000-07:002014-09-06T11:55:23.239-07:00[软绵绵的爱] 与 [严厉的爱],哪种更可靠?<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 36.0pt;">
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">我们的社会提倡爱的教育。特别是在心理资询或辅导领域,爱的教育常常被认为是辅导的代名词。但是很多人,甚至辅导员自己都不了解什么是</span><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">[</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">爱的教育</span><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">]</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">。最后,爱的教育沦落成</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;"> </span><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">[</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">溺爱和宠坏</span><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">]</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: 36pt;">。这都怪辅导员们的无知与幼稚,没有把真相搞好,才会误人子弟。</span></div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-4684537237363688102013-02-10T06:57:00.003-08:002013-02-10T06:58:42.269-08:00激励学说 vs 神的话<br />
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-67765235783332447892012-10-31T06:40:00.001-07:002012-10-31T07:03:06.063-07:00Green The Earth vs 年轻人的诚意<br />
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<b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">“</span></b><b><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">SAVE MALAYSIA!</span></b><b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">”</span></b><b><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
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<b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">“不要核电厂!”</span></b><b><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">以上的口号是马来西亚人或全球人民所熟悉的。许多人穿青衣或在面子书</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Profile</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">放着青色的</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">logo.</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">这种爱护地球的年轻人,他们的精神是很可贵的。只是单单喊喊口号,还不够诚意表达我们对环保所作出的贡献。</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">当年轻人一边喊“</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">STOP LYNAS</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">!不要稀土厂”;另一边却还在用着稀土制造的电子产品。我们只希望稀土提炼厂不要盖在我国,但稀土是制造电话的最重要原料,赶出我国,建在别土,我们就可以继续享受科技,而别国(大都是第三国家,人民意识不高,容易被摆布)他国人民的安全,我们是否也在乎?如果年轻人真要谈环保就必须真正做到拒绝使用会危害健康的科技产品,也包括其制造过程不可危害员工与当地居民的安全。如果全球人民不愿意使用稀土所制造出来的科技物品,稀土厂就根本无需要盖。</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">当年轻人一边说要救地球,不要辐射,却不断换新手机与电脑,每部过时或被淘汰的手机与电脑,以及里面的电池最后堆积起来成山,被埋进土里。土壤的辐射又有人在乎吗?当我们不要核电厂,却不能停止享用热水机和冷气机。我们大量使用电源,又要求低收费电源供应,盖核电厂是迟早的结局。我一位外国朋友说我们马来西亚人很“变态”,我们在大热天回到家里马上要开冷气,吹完冷气,身体很冷。要去冲凉时,就使用热水机。冲完热水澡,身体又很热,又再开大冷气!你说“变态”吗?</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">真要做到环保,成为救地球的大使,我们只要学会过简单与朴实的生活。除了减少购买衣服,包包,科技产品,小心选购物品。当消费者只要求商家提供最好的货物,商家们必须把物品设计与制造到了最顶尖的才可推出市场,就可以避免浪费和对地球的伤害。一些在科技公司上班的朋友告诉我,他们的公司研发的货品科技本来已经到了第十代的模式,可是,不会推出市场,因为要让消费者慢慢一代一代买,就可以赚更多。这些公司非但愚弄着消费者,更是浪费挥霍着地球资源。</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">这一代的人要学会过简朴的生活,才能把更多的资源存留给下一代。当屋子越大间,电源耗费越多;当这一代的人不停追潮流,换手机,换大汽车,过奢华的生活,大量浪费资源;再来大声地喊“要</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">stop</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">这一个,要</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">save</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">那个</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">…</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">”再来资源回收</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">…</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">。将来的一代会如何看我们这一代?是否会觉得我们“精神分裂</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">”? </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">盼望我们这一代好好思想!</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">被丢弃的电子产品和电器,成了电子废料。电子废料也被归纳为有毒废料。因为电子废料中含有许多有毒元素,如水银,镉,铅等。在没有妥善处理,被埋下土壤,水源严重受污染,再进入食物链,祸害无穷。</span><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">随着大马人的生活水准和消费能力提高,对电子产品的消费已不是一种需求而是为了满足奢侈的欲望。追求潮流不断更换电子产品的人是不是很自私?毕竟我们的享受是以牺牲别人的健康、大自然生态,以及下一代的幸福换取的。</span><a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=7719876353631204556" name="_GoBack"></a><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">这篇文章是献给光华国中</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Green The Earth,</span></i></b><b><i><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 16pt; line-height: 115%;">全体为爱护地球而奋斗的环保大使、老师及同学们。盼望我们一起用感恩的心来护理这片美丽的土地。</span></i></b><b><i><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></b></div>
<br />Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-19958374712123587012012-10-25T08:32:00.000-07:002014-09-06T11:54:01.034-07:00雅比斯的祷告<br />
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<b><span style="background: #F9FDFF; color: #552200; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 16.5pt; line-height: 115%;">1 Chronicles
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honorable than his brothers. His mother had named him Jabez, saying, "I
gave birth to him in pain."</span> <o:p></o:p></div>
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Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from
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<span style="color: teal; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia;">1Ch 4:9-10</span><span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia;"> </span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-hansi-font-family: Georgia;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">雅比斯比他眾弟兄更尊貴,他母親給他起名叫雅比斯,意思說:我生他甚是痛苦。</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU;"> </span><span style="color: teal; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU;">(10)</span><span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU;"> </span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-hansi-font-family: Georgia;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">雅比斯求告以色列的神說:「甚願你賜福與我,擴張我的境界,常與我同在,保佑我不遭患難,不受艱苦。」神就應允他所求的。</span></span><span style="font-family: "Georgia","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Georgia; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: #0070c0; font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">灵修心得:</span><span style="color: #0070c0;"><o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">许多时候我们读经,在这两句经文里头,我们最先看到的是神听了</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">的祷告,</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">應允他所求的</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">。于是许多作者也用这</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">的祷告出了许多书籍,教导人如何祷告、如何勇敢求神,就好像祷告大过一切,不管你求的是什么,只要你有“信心”就一定得到。我读了这样的书,发现实在是太滑稽。里面所谓的信心,也只不过是自己的信念,不是真理的信心。没有分辨能力的基督徒,看了这类的书,会觉得很高兴,因为神是按照我心意,给我我想要的东西。那实在是太棒了,我只要学会很厉害“祷告</span><span style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">/<span lang="ZH-CN">乞求”,就会得到我想要的,一切风调雨顺,安枕无忧,荣华富贵。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN">其实,关于</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">,圣经提的不多,就两句经文。两句经文就可以让一些作者写了好几本祷告的书,不得不佩服他们的“写作”能力,实在有够强。</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 18pt;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">关于祷告,圣经有许多其他的经文,如:</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: teal; font-family: ""serif"","serif"; font-size: 18.0pt;"> </span><span style="color: teal; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 18.0pt;">Mat 6:31-33</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">所以,不要憂慮說:吃什麼?喝什麼?穿什麼?</span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span style="color: teal; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 18.0pt;">(32)</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">這都是外邦人所求的,你們需用的這一切東西,你們的天父是知道的。</span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span style="color: teal; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 18.0pt;">(33)</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">你們要先求他的國和他的義,這些東西都要加給你們了。</span></span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">就拿这段经文来看,发现其实我们需要什么,天父是知道的,但上帝不是要我们求这些(我们想要的金钱、地位、成绩、名利、事业蓬勃……)</span></span><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">;而是先求他的国和他的义,其余的都会加给我们。这是什么意思呢?</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: teal; font-family: ""serif"","serif"; font-size: 18.0pt;">Jam 5:16</span><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">。義人祈禱所發的力量是大有功效的。</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;"> <span lang="ZH-CN">我们祷告的功效不是因为我很会祷告,而是我们是不是一个义人。在</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;"> </span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">历代志上</span><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;">4</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">:</span><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;">9 <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">记载</span><span style="font-family: '', serif, '', serif; font-size: 18pt;">[<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯比他眾弟兄更尊貴</span><span style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">]<span lang="ZH-CN">,读经的人往往没有注意到,圣经一开始就形容</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">是个尊贵的人,他不只是尊贵,他比他弟兄更尊贵。这里表示什么呢?他是一个受人尊敬的人。什么人会受人尊敬呢?古今中外我们都可以看到一个行公义、怜悯穷人、为人正直、敬畏神的人,会受人尊敬,是个尊贵的人,也就是个义人。</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">的祷告蒙上帝应允不是因为他很会求或他很大胆求,秘诀是他行神看为义的事,敬畏神,按神的心意治理国家,照神的话而活。</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">问题:我们如果也希望像</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">雅比斯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">一样祷告蒙应允,那要如何呢?</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; font-size: 18pt;">希望你已经知道答案了。愿神帮助我们作一个懂得思考的基督徒。</span><span style="font-size: 18pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-35038397420375953342012-10-08T03:40:00.001-07:002012-10-08T03:40:37.696-07:00不要惊动爱情: Q&A<iframe allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen" frameborder="0" height="480" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/z8s5gFjXkIY" width="640"></iframe>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-73475848711790483432012-10-08T03:38:00.003-07:002012-10-08T03:38:55.954-07:00如何对她说: Q&A<iframe allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen" frameborder="0" height="480" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/QIx4nImk_dg" width="640"></iframe>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-69079476145342426692012-10-08T03:36:00.003-07:002012-10-08T03:36:56.860-07:00如何对她说<iframe allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen" frameborder="0" height="480" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/yrD45Xhzyo8" width="640"></iframe>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-22311956295506797672012-09-24T07:32:00.001-07:002012-09-24T08:11:57.777-07:00男孩的痛苦<br />
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<span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">心灵创伤分为</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">AB</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">两型。前者为因重创导致的创伤,</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">如突如其来的情变,海啸冲击、战争中的创伤、失去至亲等。后者为因不曾拥有所导致的心灵创伤。比如,一个不曾被父亲拥抱的孩子,看到另一格人被慈祥的父亲紧紧拥抱的温馨场面,心里会很难受,甚至悲伤起来。这种情绪是非常的复杂。同性恋者大都属于</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">B</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">型,男者可能为缺乏父亲的爱与关怀,家中没有健康的父亲形象,或受到父亲的拒绝,没有办法得到父亲的肯定,人在没有</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">得到肯定之前,情感上没有办法独立。在情感上会发生</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">转移</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">”</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">。把他对父爱的渴望和需要,转移到另一个男人的身上。以上例子只是导致同性恋者走上这条路的其中一个原因</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;">。</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">至于从异性恋变成同性恋,这是双性恋。大都发生在女性身上。因为女性在情感依赖上有很大的需要,当情感上得不到靠岸,这时如果有人给他温暖,不管那人是谁,因为情感上的失落和需要很大,所以就会扑过去。只为了寻找一份温暖</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;">。</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">医学上出现一个很愚蠢的错误和矛盾,当一个男人跟医生说:</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">我是一个女人,捆在男人的肉身,请你帮我动手术,变回女人。医生会义不容辞,因为可以赚一笔又一笔的可观数目,这种手术不是一次完成,需要一辈子送钱给医生。但如果,有一个男人,对医生说:</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">我是一头猩猩,捆在人类的肉身里,请你帮我动手术,换回猩猩。</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">”</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">医生的反应是把他送去检查头脑</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;">。</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">同性恋绝对不是与生俱来的。那个以为自己是一头猩猩的人,也会沮丧到自杀。同性恋不是精神的问题,而是一个</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">关系</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">”</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">的问题。所以需要靠</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">关系</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">才能医好。单单寻求辅导,只是把问题的根源揭开(寻求对这方面有深入认识的资深辅导,并不是所有辅导员对这方面有认识)。但真正的医治,来自关系(人群里的关系与爱</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">/social support).</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">需要通过人群的支持与爱,才能得到医治。人在得不到</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">关系</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">‘</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">上的满足,就会沮丧,忧郁,甚至变态。夫妻、小孩、</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";"> </span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">若得不到</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">关系</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: "Tahoma","sans-serif";">“</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma;">上的满足都会出现问题。孩子与父母关系不好,孩子可能会在学校出现问题。夫妻也许会出轨</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;">。</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: SimSun;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-24152740997468275842012-05-05T08:53:00.001-07:002012-05-07T04:47:44.530-07:00给我清洁的心<br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">(一首忏悔、祷告的诗,用忏悔、祷告的心来唱)</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #4c1130;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">求你按你的慈爱怜恤我</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">按你的慈悲涂抹我的过犯</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">我知道我的罪恶在我面前</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">我的罪恶也常在你的眼前</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">神啊</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">求你不要离我而去</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">再次对我显现你的荣面</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">掩面不顾我</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">求你听我的祷告</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">神啊</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">求你为我造清洁的心</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">使我里面重新有正直的灵</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要丢弃我使我离开你的面</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要收回你的圣</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">灵</span></span><br />
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">这是旧约圣经中的诗篇,大卫在犯罪、得罪神后,所写的诗。一个义人回转是何等的可贵。这首诗是罪人忏悔后,回转,对神的祈求。诗人用一颗敬畏、祷告、忏悔的心唱出心中的祈求。</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: #4c1130;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">神啊</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">求你为我造清洁的心</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">使我里面重新有正直的灵</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要丢弃我使我离开你的面</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">不要收回你的圣</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 115%;">灵</span></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">在新约时代,我们所领受的圣灵是永远内住在我们里面,不会离开我们的。那这首诗歌现在到底还可不可以唱呢?这成为了争议。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">圣经旧约以赛亚书也告诉我们:“神总不撇下我们,也不丢弃我们。”这是上帝给我们的安慰。但除了知道神永不撇下我们这样的“神学”,一个人若要存敬畏的心,就要像这首诗的作者一样活像“若我们犯罪,我们会被丢弃的”这样的态度,这样的祈求在神面前也是讨神的喜悦的,因为没有把神的恩典当作理所当然。什么是“敬畏”?敬畏</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">就是“害怕得罪神”。害怕得罪神的后果,害怕神会离开我们。这样的害怕在某种属灵程度上是好事。除非我们“害怕得罪神”,否则我们一定乱来。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">我们在我们父面前可以这样表达吗?我认为绝对可以!而且是符合人性的。我们知道</span><b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: red; font-family: SimSun; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;">神是不会离开我们的</span></b><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">,他是我们的天父,他比地上的父母还更爱我们。可是我们生活的态度要像“我们若犯罪,我们会被神丢弃”这样,才能长存敬畏的心。由于太多的诗歌是有很大的神学错误,以至于今天我们唱诗时很小心。有时太拘束于所谓的“神学”,也会不小心忽略了“人性</span>"<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">的表达。这首诗唱出的是人性中最深的渴望与祷告。一首这么好的</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">祷告诗,如果就这样被教会禁止了,实在是天大的误解与可惜,也是神学上的肤浅。没有好的神学教义的教会,随便带领会众唱这首歌,是很危险的。会众也许会误以为圣灵是会离开我们的。在带领这首歌时,领唱的人要非常清楚你带这首歌的目的和意义。这首歌特别适合在带领会众悔改,跪下忏悔的心志。给领唱者的建议是,唱完这首歌后,我们可以说:“我们常常在得罪神后,希望神</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span>[<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">饶恕我们,不要丢弃我们</span>]<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">,这是我们的心声。我们虽然是配得被丢弃的,但感谢神,神说”我是信实的、是公义的,凡认罪悔改的,我要赐恩典给他。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">接着,再选一首诗歌,述说神</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">的信实,安慰会众上帝永不离开我们。如果你想不到可以用哪一首歌,推荐你用这首歌</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span>[<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;"><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_2L3rGyBsI">你的爱不离不弃</a></span>]<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">,这是一首安慰的诗歌。</span></div>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-46854811505368512302012-03-22T02:06:00.001-07:002012-03-22T02:13:28.959-07:00不要惊动爱情(一)Do Not Awaken Love (1)<iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/jtR6mh_l8Q4" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-42032655743350200222011-06-22T05:29:00.000-07:002011-06-22T05:31:06.971-07:00爱情问答题<p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span class="apple-style-span"><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">问题</span></u></span><span class="apple-style-span"><u><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Tahoma; ">1</span></u></span><span class="apple-style-span"><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">:</span></u></span><span class="apple-style-span"><u><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></u></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">老师,</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">我朋友最近告诉我说他的一个秘密</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">他说他每晚都会想起一个女生,他说每当他接近那女生时都会很害羞</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">还有最近很多其他班的男生来接近那女生</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">他会感到很伤心</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">+</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">失望</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">他问我这是不是喜欢的感觉</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">我不能回答他,因为我也没什麽经验</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">><</span></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><br /></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">老师他也问我要怎样对待这事呢</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">?</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">那女生是否是上帝许配给他的呢</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">?</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">(他是个基督徒)这些问题我都无法回答他诶</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">…</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">老师可以为我解答麽</span></span><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; " ><o:p> </o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt;mso-line-height-alt:10.5pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">你朋友的情况是一种的迷恋。他很迷恋这个女生,甚至当别人接近那女生时,就会很没有安全感。这样的男生通常自卑心很强,没有办法坦然面对女生并和她做朋友,因为他一心只想做情人,做不成情人,就连朋友可能都没办法做。他首先需要解决的是,自己的自卑感问题,和学习和人沟通做朋友的艺术,特别是和女生做朋友。很多这类的男生,看到自己喜欢的女生,会紧张到说不出话,甚至变得很木纳,结果被自己的木纳害到,没有办法跟喜欢的人开花结果。</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt;mso-line-height-alt:10.5pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">那女生是不是上帝的旨意?在他还没有处理好自己,在神里面建立稳妥的安全感,认识神之前,他无法知道谁才是神的旨意,因为他还不能明白神的旨意。只有认识神,明白神的话,了解神的属性的人,才有办法知道这是否是神的旨意。所以,鼓励你的朋友,多读圣经和属灵书籍。特别在这个年龄,不要问哪个是神的旨意先,而要问,</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">“</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">上帝,这一生你要我做何事?除非,他先要认识并顺服神,才有办法听见他对你说话。</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt;mso-line-height-alt:10.5pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">我们这一生都会遇到好几个让我们心动</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">/</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">心跳加数的人。这些的感觉很多时候也是一种考验。茫茫人海中,我们会喜欢上某些人,因为他</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">/</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">她身上的特质吸引了你。好好看看你喜欢他什么?问自己到底喜欢他什么?这是很重要的问题,因为你的答案反映出你是个怎么样的人。</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt;mso-line-height-alt:10.5pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">至于我为什么说那些感觉很多时候是一种考验呢?因为,在这个世上我们会因为一些环境的因素、文化</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">/</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">信仰</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; ">/</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">背景、时间、家庭的因素、或个人的因素,而没有办法跟我们喜欢的人在一起。当我们遇到这样的事情时,我们是如何选择和反应,都在在的考验我们的人格。你是否爱人多过爱神,你是否看到美女就忘记神?你是否跟随自己的感觉多过顺服神?当你的感觉和神的旨意互相违背时,你到底愿不愿意放下自己的心意?你有信心上帝会为你存留吗?</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt;mso-line-height-alt:10.5pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">我们人只需要做对的事,做当做的,就是努力学习、追求认识神,其余的上帝会负责。除了每天一定要多读圣经,也要好好看一些属灵的作者,写关于基督徒的爱情和婚姻的书。</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><span style="mso-tab-count:2"> </span></span><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">追求圣洁爱情的青少年必读:</span></u><u><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></u></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><span style="mso-tab-count:2"> </span>1</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">。当男孩遇上女孩</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><span style="mso-tab-count:2"> </span>2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">。不再约会</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:-18.0pt"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><span style="mso-tab-count:2"> </span>3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun; ">。</span></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma; "><span class="Apple-style-span" >Holding hands, holding heart.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" ><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-9311610323239559462011-01-30T02:14:00.000-08:002011-01-30T02:19:04.277-08:00天正在等烟雨<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >青花瓷</span></div><div style="text-align: center;">素眉勾勒秋千画笔锋浓转淡</div><div style="text-align: center;">屏神描绘的牡丹一如你出妆</div><div style="text-align: center;">黯然檀香透过窗心事我了然</div><div style="text-align: center;">宣纸上走笔只字搁一半</div><div style="text-align: center;">釉色渲染侍女图韵味被私藏</div><div style="text-align: center;">而你嫣然的一笑如含苞开放</div><div style="text-align: center;">你的美一缕飘散去到我去不了的地方</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">天正在等烟雨而我在等你</div><div style="text-align: center;">炊烟袅袅升起隔江千万里</div><div style="text-align: center;">在瓶底书刻你房间敞的飘影</div><div style="text-align: center;">就当我为遇见你伏笔</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">天正在等烟雨而我在等你</div><div style="text-align: center;">月色被打捞起掩盖了结局</div><div style="text-align: center;">如传世的青花瓷在独自美丽你靥的笑意</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">涩白花青的锦鲤跃然于碗底</div><div style="text-align: center;">临摹宋体落款时却惦记着你</div><div style="text-align: center;">你隐藏在窈笑里千年的秘密</div><div style="text-align: center;">急溪里犹如绣花针落地</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">林外芭蕉惹骤雨梦幻的童女</div><div style="text-align: center;">而我路过那江南小镇在等你</div><div style="text-align: center;">在泼墨山水画里你从墨色深处被隐去</div><br /><br /><br />《青花瓷》一首不容易明白的歌词,内容抽象含糊,让人感觉深不可测。却成了许多人的喜爱。我喜欢这首歌,因为它模糊得像爱情一样,难以捉摸其中含义。爱情有时也发生在这样模糊的境况里面。好像爱过,却并非爱过。好想把这首歌送给我一位不懂中文的同学,因为就如我不真的完全明白歌词一般,他永远都听不懂我。Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-46885402664331277192011-01-23T01:45:00.000-08:002012-05-05T09:10:52.394-07:00相遇是一件美丽的事<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;">
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">歌者的愿望永远都无法成真,因为在海水与海岸交会之处根本没有陆地。在水与沙之间空无一物。然而,在这海与沙的交会处所发生的正是完形治疗的核心。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">完形治疗被公认是念心理治疗与辅导的学生最头痛,最不能明白的理论,除了因为它是最复杂与抽象的,也因为大家不明白何谓‘接触’</span>(contact)<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">。要成为完形治疗师或读懂这门理论,要先搞懂</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">‘接触’。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">接触是一种涉及碰触差异的察觉,必须承认差异,否则没有接触。以人们之间的关系这个角度来思考:人们为了相会,他们必须在相异处接触。接触是差异的体验。相会包含着两种不同东西的碰触:水和沙。两个人相遇,必须承认差异,关系才会成长。试图要像对方的夫妻</span>/<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">情侣其实是在避免接触,逃避关系。</span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">相遇是一件美丽的事。相遇可能充满欢愉、好奇、兴奋和关心。在相会中接触,是我们改变和成长的方式。今天的我,和过去曾经遇到什么人有关。这些人的出现,改变了我的人生。好或不好的,都丰富了我的人生旅程,让我的心灵世界有了宽容。更教会我要懂得珍惜现在所拥有的。</span></div>Yien Fanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01135456361222959840noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7719876353631204556.post-32990946820901096872011-01-19T17:07:00.000-08:002012-05-05T09:29:05.083-07:00夜<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span class="Apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">‘<span class="Apple-style-span">平安夜</span>’一首百年的圣诗。英文称为“</span><span class="Apple-style-span">Silent Night, Holy Night</span>”. <span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">平安的夜里,应该是宁静的。只有在安静黑暗中,人才可能真正的面对自己。只可惜,华人往往把‘夜’视为鬼出没的时间,把夜与死亡、邪恶联想在一起。‘夜’很无辜被曲枉。事实上,鬼不在夜,鬼反而在光明之处。圣经说,它伪装成光明的天使。</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">陈奕迅有一首歌‘</span>Silent Night, Lonely Night’<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">,正正反映出现代人的寂寞。不敢面对黑夜,因为害怕寂寞。人以为有人陪伴,就不会寂寞,所以渴慕谈恋爱、结婚,以为从此不再寂寞。最后发现谈恋爱或结婚后,更寂寞。人会寂寞,不是因为身边没有人,而是没有人真正了解我们。在这个世界上,没有人可以解决我们的寂寞,寂寞是不能靠谈恋爱或结婚来解决的。我们必须</span><span lang="ZH-CN"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">学会与宁静的夜独处,在安静中聆听神,在孤单中依靠上帝。寂寞是我们学会更亲近上帝的恩典,知道我们是多么的需要上帝的安慰和同在。寂寞的黑夜里,使我们更懂得如何在上帝的话语中寻找安慰,享受独处的幸福和宁静夜里的安全感。</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">‘平安的七月夜’是</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: SimSun;">近代一首专为华人而写的米南语歌。反映出我们华人,在农历七月时,特别没有安全感。这首歌成为我在安静的夜里,最喜欢的一首歌。月夜里的宁静,充满了上帝爱的声音。</span></span></div>
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将平安放在我的内心</div>
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